Break Out of Character with Me
Welcome, friends and allies!
Your curiosity probably brought you to my site because you are looking for coaching.
My name is Melissa Armstrong, and it’s great to meet you.
I was born under a full moon, and My Sharona was the #1 song on the radio. I am a developmental coach and mindfulness teacher. I coach people through personal change, by providing a relationship space for them to reflect, process emotions, and create new behaviours and habits. I help people relate better to themselves and to others, and I help people in recovery to unshackle themselves from the pain and numbing of addictions.
I believe in individual awakening for collective freedom. To do my part in working to end systemic oppression, I actively work on myself and in my coaching and facilitation practice to: embody inclusive values and inclusive language, to recognize and unpack the privilege I have as a white, straight woman, to try to use my privilege to help other people get free, to be open to feedback, to correct my mistakes, to learn and unlearn, to offer reduced fees and scholarships to BIPOC and people from other marginalized groups, to be an ally, and to listen. I also make recurring monthly financial contributions to groups who are doing people-liberating and climate-saving social justice work. I am inspired by the Buddhist Peace Fellowship's framework Block, Build, Be. Block harm and oppression, Build inspiring alternatives, and Be in alignment with spiritual truths. I try to use this framework as my personal rubric (or simple and explicit guideline) for checking with myself: how's my anti-oppression work going? What am I blocking? What am I building? And how am I being?
None of us are free until all of us are free.
You are a great fit to work with me in coaching if any of the following apply to you:
You want help to free yourself from old, habituated patterns that aren’t working for you anymore.
You are in addiction recovery and feel stagnant, and want to get in touch with your aliveness and sense of wonder.
You are wrestling with big, difficult emotions and are having a hard time finding emotional peace.
You are experiencing a lot of stress and are ready to experience wellbeing and resilience.
You are interested in learning how to make mindfulness a life practice.
We might share the same interests:
Mindfulness or the exploration of consciousness,
Magic and the Tarot.
Expansive approaches to addiction recovery,
Lifelong development (waking up and growing up) so that we can take care of the world we live in.
My clients repeatedly say that I am a brilliant sounding board. I will help you to draw out your inner experience, which might include your confusing, conflicted fears, your limiting beliefs, the things you most hope for but are afraid to say, the challenges you keep coming up against, or the permission you want to give yourself. I create the space for you to be seen and heard, and to get in touch with a more spacious, expansive sense of self. My clients say they feel extremely comfortable with me, that I am a great listener, that I’m warm, super honest, and that they love my perspectives and the resources and practices I share with them.
If you work with me, you’ll discover what is currently blocking you, you will gain insight into your coaching topic, and we will co-create practices to help you move forward.
I am a devoted learner and I have deep training in a bunch of systems and models that I weave into my coaching. I am an Integral Master Coach*, a certified Integral Facilitator, a Level 2 Unified Mindfulness coach, and an Integrative Enneagram Practitioner. I also draw on my lived experience in healing from addiction, anxiety and depression, and my career experience as a leader in social policy and systems change in the public sector for over fifteen years. I've been coaching full time as an executive coach at Shopify since April 2018.
Read about my services here.
*My bookings are currently closed, and will re-open in early 2021.*
Learn about Wonder Recovery, my online group coaching program for people in addiction recovery.
Finally, we probably won’t be a fit:
if you’re looking for someone to tell you what to do. I’ve had a lifelong struggle with authority (I'm just trying to be honest here!), so I am certainly not going to tell you what to do. I believe you are the authority on your own life. While I think that it’s important for us to consult teachers, guides, therapists, books, and all sorts of other resources, we are ultimately in charge of deciding what is best for us as individuals.
if you're not sure what to work on in coaching, or if you're not sure if you're ready. I lovingly encourage you to get clear on your intention for coaching before you book with me, because you'll get a lot more out of our time together that way.
Please note: I have expertise in human development, which means I can help you to understand where you are, and where you want to go. Coaching is not a replacement for therapy or digging in to the wounds of the past. If your most important concern is working through old traumas, that work is best done with a therapist.
*Integral Coach™ is a registered trade-mark in Canada owned by Integral Coaching Canada Inc. and licensed to Melissa Armstrong